Anyway, what was so astonishing was how God revealed that I am "encouraging" Bobbye Sue to be a "Good Girl" too. While yes, there are things that I need to teach her; am I truly teaching her God's ways or am I imposing my expectations on her? Too often, I feel like I do the latter one. I want my kids to love and obey God because they have a relationship with God; not because the are in fear of Him or feel like the have to preform for Him
Proverbs 22:6 says
"Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it."
I remember having a conversation with a good friend of my, Becca Harrison, a few years ago and she told me (I think) that the original translation went something like; "Train up a child in the way in the way he is bent..." She explained to me that God has a path set for our children to go and that is not our job to force them what to do but to guide them. I am not responsible for the route my children take. I can train, advise and pray fir them, but at the end of the day, they will have to be accountable for their own choices. Like in "Brave" (not to spoil the ending), the daughter begins to understand the mother a little better and the mother starts to accept the daughter for who she is. This was a great lesson for me; not only as a mother, but also as God's daughter. As mom, I need to be able to step back and realize that this is their life and they're going to have to live it the way they see fit. As God's daughter, I need to strengthen my own relationship with Him and not always try to please others; thinking that this is how I am to pleas God.