Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Thankful Thursday - It's been a while!

Sometimes I feel like  I'm running around in circles. There are so many things I want to do and many time -especially during certain times of the months I'm just exhausted and it seams to take all my energy to do the basics things.  This is when I realize how thankful I am for God's pure, free and simple grace!  I don't have to have a spotless house or blog everyday  to ensure the God love me.  I don't have to be a replica of Carol Brady to prove that I'm a good wife and mother.  All I have to do is love and care  for Barrett and the kids the way God directs me top.  Do I succeed at this everyday???  NO!  However, He still loves me.  He convicts me when I do wrong and He also acknowledges and confirms me when I'm doing the best I can.  I think this is why I can lay down in a house that's not spotless and with chaos all around me and I can rest in PEACE

Created to Be His Help Meet - Ch 1: God's Gift

What does being a help meet mean?   To be a help meet to Barrett means I am to serve him and help him in his life and service to God.

"A wise woman doesn't take anything for granted.  She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely." ~ Debi Pearl.

Just because Barrett (was forced to, as he'd jokingly say) put a ring on my hand, doesn't mean that I'll automatic get his love (willing) for the rest of my life.  Yes, we both made promises to love and care for each other, but if I'm not giving my all to him as a wife then his love for me is going to change.  Barrett's a very loyal man, especially to  his family.  There's not doubt in my my mind that Barrett will do whatever he needs to to take care of me.  But I want him to want to care for me.  I don't want to be a burden on him.  Now, Barret and I are in a unique situation because the is a certain amount of limitations that do put a lot of stress on Barrett because there are things that I can't do and/or there may be times where I may need more help than at other times.  I'm so grateful Barret does this, but this is not God's plan.   I was created to be Barrett's wife; to fulfill a need and be a "good thing" for him.   I was created to make him complete.  It just amazes me to think that God created a man just for me and that he made be just for Barrett.  My job as Barrett's help meet is to look around and she what I can do to help my husband; to ease his burden.  I must admit; I could do a lot better at this.  I love Barrett.  Many wives say "Well, I shouldn't have to earn his love."  They're right, you don't have to earn his love, but that's not what being a good help meet is about.  I want to serve Barrett because I love him, not because I want hime to love me more`.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Could you Talk to Your Husband That Way?

OK, so one of my "guilty pleasures" is watching the TV show "Bridezillas" on WE TV.  (I know I should but...)  Anyway, it's a very humorous, but sad  thing to see  how women treat the men that they are about to dedicate the rest of their life.  I'm by no means saying that I'm the perfect wife; I've said and done  things in the heat of the moment that I'm sure have  scared Barrett to the the core.  I just can't imagine talking to some one in such a negative, aggressive way.  I totally believe that when I speak negatively to my husband it breaks his  spirit.  I can think of many (older) couples who've been married for a while that take on the traits of the other spouse - the husband starts acting like the wife and the wife starts acting like the husband.  While it is very natural to become like the people who you are around  alot  - especially  those who you live.  However, I think  more often than that after years of being treated badly; that men become meek and let the woman  take control and thus the women decide that it is their duty to step up and take charge.  I remember sitting in a Sunday School with Barrett when we first got married; we were studying Adam and Eve and I suddenly understood Genesis 3:16 as I never have before.  It says; "...Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you."  I think most of us think of this as we should have physically desire for our husbands.  In a way this is true - we are to physically desire our husbands, but I believe it goes so much deeper.  Because of sin I have a natural desire to be in control, even to control Barrett.  Yes he knows all about his job  but I (THINK) I know what best for our family.